Presentation Summary - Learned Optimism

creation date: 2016-08-17, latest update: 2016-08-17

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Optimism is the way we explain things that happened to us. There is no one "correct" way, since they are just different interpretations from the same information/situation.

The difference between being optimistic and pessimistic is that, in the former you will give yourself more chance to become better.

3-Axis of explanations

Impersonal vs Personal

They don't like my work because of me.

vs

They don't like my work because it lacks some features they want.

General vs Specific

They don't like my work because it probably sucks at everything.

vs

They don't like my work because it probably lacks feature A.

Permanent vs Temporary

They don't like my work, a guy told me on that day.

vs

People always hate my work my whole life, and its not going to change.

How to give the best chance for yourself? Do this, learned optimism:

Optimistic praise (good things that happened) should be personal, general, and permanent.

"This issue you filed shows why you have been and will continue to be an asset to the community."

Optimistic criticism (bad things that happened) should be impersonal, specific, and temporary.

"This pull request does not currently meet our current standards, because these specific A, B and C reasons."